Want to find out more about this faith-building, church-changing spirit-filled weekend!?
We hope this page answers the most common questions you might have about the retreat, but please feel free to reach out to us if you can’t find the information you are looking for! For questions regarding registration or payment, contact Mollie Hearne via e-mail or at 610-425-8389. This page will be updated as more details become available. You can also find out more about the venue at www.stmaryofprov-pa.org.
Activities are conducted in a casual, pressure-free environment. Activities may include large group learning sessions, small group sharing, worship and fellowship. Other popular activities in years past have included silent auctions and sock auctions, crafts, massages, and guided meditation, as well as nature walks. ALL sessions and activities are optional. This is YOUR retreat, and you should feel free to share or participate as much or as little as you feel led to do so. We recognize that it is sometimes in peace and solitude that we find our closest commune with God, and it is our greatest wish that you leave this weekend feeling refreshed and fulfilled.
We encourage you to bring a friend, neighbor, sister, mother, daughter, aunt, grandmother, whomever… but feel free to register on your own! This has become a yearly tradition for many of our participants. Overnight occupancy is based on two to a room, and you can designate your roommate preferences (if you have any) on your registration form.
This year we will be gathering at St. Mary of Providence Retreat Center.
St. Mary’s is located between Honeybrook and Elverson, PA. It is about a 45-50 minute drive from Oxford. If you prefer to sleep at home, commuting is an option, and you can attend all of the weekend’s activities as a commuter, or just Saturday’s activities.
From Oxford, head north on RT 10 and continue past RT 30 (RT 10 becomes “N. Orctorara Trl after 30). Continue on RT 10, when you come to 340, look for Compass RD, and you will make a Right to stay on 10. Continue on 10/Compass Rd to Walnut St, turn Right onto Walnut ST. In a short distance 0.5 mi, turn Right onto Horseshoe Pike. In 0.2 mi turn Left onto Suplee Rd. Go 3.4 mi, turn Left onto Chestnut Tree Rd. Go 0.6 mi, turn Right on ISABELLA Rd. In 1.0 mi you will reach St. Mary’s of Providence Center, 227 Isabella Rd.
There are 3 entrances. The first entrance will take you up the “S” driveway in front of the mansion, and veer you around the back of the mansion to the “Dalton House” where we will be staying. The second driveway will take you to the main parking lot, just a short walk to the Dalton House. There is also a second parking lot behind the Dalton House, limited spots in this area, as there is senior housing on the property. PLEASE, no parking in numbered spots!! The third entrance will take you in the back, up to the Dalton House. We will have signs to direct you at all entrances.
St. Mary of Providence Center
227 Isabella Road
Elverson, PA 19520
Read more about the venue at www.stmaryofprov-pa.org.
Overnight Retreat option includes:
2 nights lodging in a double-occupancy room with private bath
5 meals (3 meals Saturday/2 meals Sunday)
All retreat materials
Access to all open facility amenities
Weekend Commuter option includes:
5 meals (3 meals Saturday/2 meals Sunday)
All retreat materials
Access to all open facility amenities
Saturday-Only Commuter option includes:
3 meals (breakfast/lunch/dinner on Saturday)
All retreat materials
Saturday access to all open facility amenities
As years go by and our numbers increase, it has become necessary for us to move to larger facilities in order to accommodate our growing group. This is both a blessing and a curse, since these types of operations are more costly because they offer more amenities and options. We’ve come a long way since the humble house on the hill at the convent. We are truly blessed that our numbers grow each year and we pray that continues! We have spent a great deal of time and prayer seeking the best balance to meet our needs, while keeping costs as low as we possibly can. Confidential financial aid is available for those for whom the cost is prohibitive. See the scholarship information below.
Your fee includes all retreat materials, lodging (if applicable) and all-you-can-eat buffet meals for the time during which you are registered. (The dining room staff is happy to provide food for special diets, including gluten-free, dairy-free, vegetarian, and vegan. If you have special dietary needs, please contact Mollie at 610-425-8389 as soon as possible.)
Rates are based on double-occupancy. Most rooms are the same, with 2 handicap rooms/3 bathrooms available. Each room has 2 beds, private bathroom, and individual AC control.
The break room, common area and conference room of the Dalton House are open for use 24/7. This area sleeps 60. In the event we have more than 60 overnighters, the mansion can fit another 40 or so.
- Access to many other activities on campus (outlined below in the “what else is there to do” section)
The chefs understand that some guests have health issues that cause various dietary restrictions. In order for them to meet your needs, you can notify Mollie Hearne of your food allergy or dietary restriction (example: gluten free, allergy to nuts, low sodium, etc.). Email Mollie at firstname.lastname@example.org, or call 610-425-8389. She will pass along this important information.
If your request requires specialty foods that cannot be found in most local grocery stores, please bring these foods along with you. We have a kitchen/break room with a small refrigerator to store items in the Dalton House.
The culinary team will always do their best to service your dietary needs.
YES! The Kathy Stullken Memorial Retreat Scholarship Fund was established to help subsidize registration fees for women who would not otherwise be able to attend the retreat. If you feel that the cost of attending the retreat would create a financial hardship for you, we want to help! Funds are available to assist you with all or a portion of the fee, and all requests are kept completely confidential. Please designate this on your registration form.
Katherine Baird Stullken was a member of Oxford Presbyterian Church for many years. She conceived of and organized our first women’s retreat back in 2006, while in the midst of a personal battle with breast cancer. She won that battle, but the cancer returned.
We lost Kathy on February 4, 2014, just weeks before we were scheduled to gather for our ninth retreat. The retreat that year was in many ways a time of mourning, but also a time of healing, as we recalled Kathy’s quick wit and good-natured cheeky comebacks. We laughed together and cried together, reflecting on the ways that Kathy had touched our lives, not the least of which was the gift of bringing us all together for that first retreat in 2006. The recognition of the profound impact that these retreats have had on us inspired us to create this scholarship in her honor. We could think of no more fitting memorial than to share this gift of fellowship with other women.
Scholarships are funded from proceeds of the sock auction held each year at the retreat, and also by donations from retreat participants and church members who wish to honor Kathy’s memory in a very tangible and meaningful way. If you would like to contribute to this fund and help someone attend the retreat, please note in the appropriate space on your registration form.
4:00 Check-in begins at Dalton House / Free Time
5:30 – 6:30 Welcome reception in Solarium (Mansion)
6:30 Tour of Mansion from Sr. Kathy
7:15 Welcome in Dalton House 8:30 Free Time/Bonfire (weather permitting)
7:30 Check-in begins for Saturday commuters
8:00 Breakfast, please be prompt
9:15 Group session in Dalton House
12:00 Lunch, please be promt
1:15 Group Session/Prayer group/Prayer walk
3:30 Sock Auction* (see notes –>)
5:30 Dinner, please be promt
7:00 Group session
8:15 – ?? “Girls’ Night In”/game night/group activities
9:30 Worship in Chapel
12:00 Lunch 1:15 Closing Session
*Sock Auction – We want to draw special attention to the sock auction, reminding you to bring a pair of socks, and also this year we are asking you to bring a hat to wear during the auction. It can be a crazy hat, a homemade hat, or just your favorite go-to hat… this is to honor the memory of lost friends. There will be a prize awarded for best hat!
In addition to comfortable clothing and toiletry items, here are a few other suggestions:
- Journal or notebook
- Pen or pencil
- Sketchbook and/or other art supplies for your free time
- Yoga mat for guided meditation? TBD
- Bathing Suit/Towel for the pool (There is a $4 fee for use of pool. Hours will be given prior to retreat, lifeguard on duty)
- Outdoor wear and hiking or walking shoes for your free time
- Board games, playing cards and/or puzzles
- One pair of fun or unique socks & HAT for the sock auction* (see Sock Auction section below)
- Suggestions/information about possible beneficiaries of the auction proceeds AND completed beneficiary form
*Sock Auction – This year we are asking you to bring a hat to wear during the auction. It can be a crazy hat, a homemade hat, or just your favorite go-to hat… this is to honor the memory of lost friends. There will be a prize awarded for best hat!
Be sure to check out the sections below about other activities. There may be other items you’ll want to add to your list!
Absolutely not! We want the retreat to be a pressure-free environment. ALL sessions and activities are optional. This is YOUR retreat, and you should feel free to share or participate as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. You may spend your time however you like during your weekend at St. Mary’s of Providence. If you look at the schedule and there is something going on, but you really feel like a nap would be divine … well, sweet dreams! If you just need some time alone, take it! We recognize that it is sometimes in peace and solitude that we find our closest commune with God, and we also know that life as a caregiver or a mom of toddlers can be exhausting. So, it is our greatest wish that you leave this weekend feeling refreshed and refilled.
The only non-negotiable items on the schedule are the meal times, since there is one seating in the dining room. Other than that, you may come and go as you like.
St. Mary’s seeks to create an environment that offers rest, relaxation and recreation for their guests. Because people relax and recreate in a variety of ways, they have a number of activity options for groups to use and enjoy.
Activities always available:
Prayer Sitting Room—offers a quiet place to come and pray. It is located in the Mansion, and the morning light reflects beautifully off the stained glass windows. The prayer room is open 24 hours and is located on the first floor, on the dining side of the mansion.
Outdoor Stations of the Cross/Resurrection Chapel- Another place for prayer and reflection, the outdoor stations lead to the resurrection chapel. A peaceful place just a short walk from Dalton House, near the parking lot.
Bookstore—More than just books! You will walk through the small store to get into the dining hall. The store is not staffed and anything purchased is by the honor system, so cash and checks only for purchases.
Basketball—Outdoor court, available during daylight hours.
Chapel- The main chapel is located across from the Dalton House.
Activities with specific hours:
Swimming Pool—St. Mary’s has an Olympic-sized indoor swimming pool for use all year. There are lap swimming hours and open hours. There must be a lifeguard on duty to swim. Swim fee is $4.
The standard pool hours for will be*:
Saturday lap swim 8-11 pm, open 12-3
Sunday lap 12-2 pm
*Hours subject to change as a lifeguard must be on duty during open hours, there are locker rooms in the pool building.
Yes, and maybe even more! Many of us remember sitting in the sock auction during our first retreat and maybe feeling a little confused by the intensity with which some of the women bid on a pair of cat or unicorn socks. But by the end, it all made sense. Each year we retreat participants discuss and vote on one or two beneficiaries to receive the proceeds from our sock auction. A portion of the proceeds is kept back for the retreat scholarship fund, and the remainder goes to the selected cause. So the bidding isn’t really for socks. Depending on the selected cause, the amount of your donation that exceeds the actual value of the socks will very likely be tax deductible. Many women plan ahead to bid at the sock auction as part of their normal charitable contributions for the year. But, you do not have to bring socks or bid at all if you’d rather just sit back and watch the silliness unfold. Warning: you may spend the rest of the day with sore sides or numb cheeks from laughing so hard!
On the Sunday following the retreat, the women who attended will wear their socks and get up as a group in front of the congregation to give a brief report on the retreat, including the amount of money that the auction raised, and where the money is going. The congregation always looks forward to sharing in the joy of this “sock parade” and hearing about the weekend.
Our 2015 retreat was held at McShain-Horstmann Family Life Center at Malvern Retreat House. This facility allowed us to accommodate more women, but we soon learned that March weekends had standing reservations for years into the future. So, in 2016, we moved to nearby Sandy Cove Conference Center which has allowed us to accommodate the varied needs of all our retreat participants, and offer commuting as a much more feasible alternative for those who prefer to sleep in their own beds. The 2016 retreat was attended by nearly 50 women!
“I formed such strong bonds during the retreat, and now when I see those women in church, I feel like those bonds between us make our church stronger, too!”
“I felt safe to share my true thoughts and feelings, confident they would be kept in the sanctity of our retreat circle.”
“I had seen her in church before, but I had never taken the opportunity to have a real conversation with her. I never dreamed she was so funny! Now I can’t wait to get to know her better!”
Overnight registration closes March 3, 2019
Don’t miss out!
Download the registration form HERE!